Couples Therapy in San Francisco

It’s never too late to repair a relationship if both partners are committed and willing to put in the work in couples therapy. When you feel stuck or aren’t even sure where to begin, seeking confidential help from an effective and caring couples therapist can make all the difference.

Maintain a passionate and connected relationship

When two people first fall in love it feels effortless. Passion, connection, joy, and empathy happen automatically. Relationships change over time and partners can grow distant or engage in frequent conflict. Sometimes significant transitions or critical decisions require both partners to get on the same page.  

Improve communication and understanding in couples therapy

A perceived sense of stress on the relationship almost always causes communication difficulties and doubts about the relationship may arise. Communication can get confusing and breakdowns happen easily. Couples therapy helps to repair or strengthen your relationship by learning how to communicate and understand each other better.

Couples therapy issues:

In couples therapy you will learn to:

• Identify negative patterns hindering the quality of your relationship

• Shift from blaming each other to collaboration

• Find healthy ways to communicate and connect

• Identify triggers and how to navigate circumstances that lead to problems

• Own your role in conflict or distance by better understanding your own defenses

• Prepare for major relationship life-cycle transitions such as moving into together, getting married, having children, empty nest, and aging well together

• Feel deeply connected to each other again and recreate the love and passion that you experienced early in the relationship

How I approach my work with couples:

Every couples therapist claims to create a safe space where learned communication techniques allow thoughts and feelings to be shared without fear of being blamed, judged, or ignored. Unfortunately, few therapists know how to actually create that safe space. Partners often come out blasting each other in session, only to go home later and discover that they hurt each other.

I’m an active therapist and if you begin to fight or say things that are hurtful, I intervene. I teach you how to effectively share your needs and how to tell your partner when those needs are being met.

Couples therapy is extremely collaborative. I begin by helping you to establish a new vision for the relationship, which incorporates the needs and wants of both partners. I create a structured process, where each of your individual viewpoints are respected. Through this process you will gain insight into relational patterns and restore trust, connection, and romance.